2014-06-13 / Columnists

An Intern’s Take

Father’s Day
By Ilyassha Shivers

As we prepare to celebrate Father’s Day, I want to take time to remember those whose dads have passed away.

I used to think Father’s Day was equivalent to

Mother’s Day, but as I get older, I realize that this is not the case.

As males, we sometimes feel that there are certain things that are automatically expected when you call yourself a dad. Honor and respect are not given, they are earned. Today there are many males who produce children, but few who father them. I’m not trying to point fingers, I just call it like I see it.

As drugs and violence continue to run rampant through our communities where are the fathers?

A father is a protector, a teacher, a provider, and an example of what to strive for. We live in a time when fathers are in need more than ever.

The world is in a state of chaos. Young men and women are looking for direction and inspiration in all the wrong places. It’s time for the real fathers to take a stand and be the definition of what a father should be.

Before you can be a father you must first become a man. A lot of us have a problem with the latter, myself included. Being a man is not determined by what you give your child, but what you sacrifice in order for them to grow.

Back in the day before rap music became a tool for destruction, it was a tool to uplift. There was a song called “Be a Father to Your Child.” The entire song was a call to be a father, but there is one line that always stuck with me. “It is said that it’s not the presents, but your presence that’s the essence.” That kind of sums it up in a nut shell. The most important gift you can give your child is being there.

I want to give a shout out to Tim, who was the only reader to correctly answer the riddle I left you with last week. The riddle was, “twelve pears hanging high, 12 men riding by, each took a pear, and left 11 there.” The answer is that there was a man named Each and he was the only one who took a pear. Tim asked, and I agree, I am pretty sure there is more to this riddle than meets the eye, so when I figure it out I will let you guys know.

If you didn’t know, June is Men’s Health Awareness Month. I was not able to conduct another festival this year due to the powers that be, but I will revisit that topic at a later date.

So as I close out, I wish all you dads out there a happy and healthy Father’s Day. Send your comments and suggestions to me at shiverswave@gmail.com. Stay safe, keep your head up and most important, don’t forget to read the Wave.

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