From The Inside Out: Self Defense
Belief is a powerful tool in any situation. It can drive you to your planned destination or keep you in park as you watch the world drive by. Only you can choose.
Imagine getting off the shuttle train at night to head home, walking to your car after a night out with friends or riding the ferry home from the city after a long day of work. Suddenly you get the “gut feeling” that something just isn’t right. Again, you have a choice, ignore your feelings and hope it goes away or accept and decide to do something about it.
Our thoughts have in the past and will always guide our present actions. The average law abiding citizen believes that self-defense is some form of a lethal strike to render an assailant unconscious with one shot, or some sort of hold or manipulation to keep someone off of them or a loved one. Or maybe it’s a concealed weapon (most likely illegal in NY state) to handle a situation as quickly and effortlessly as possible. Perhaps it’s being in the right place at the right time in hopes that the authorities may come to your rescue. In a perfect world all of these options seem very possible or reasonable.
In regards to self-defense, or just everyday life itself, I ask you to question your initial beliefs of physical action before a mindful action.
You want to develop a mental toolbox before acquiring a physical toolbox. Punches, kicks, stances, katas, gloves, ranks, belts, fight records, and years of training are not what self-defense is all about. No doubt about it, training will make you strong and confident mentally which is always a great thing, however first and foremost, developing the right mindset is what you will need in any confrontation of life. Always remember, “the mind navigates the body.” All physical action starts as a thought or vision in the head before the body makes the connection.
Think of how commercials work. They create visuals and thoughts in your head that make you want to lease that new car, enjoy that exotic vacation, download a new app, or make your kitchen floor spotless with that new mop. “As you visualize the new, you become dissatisfied with the old.”
“How does this apply to self-defense?” you might be asking yourself. If you don’t think or believe in your head, that you can or will defend yourself, you will not prepare or decide to take action for yourself or your family. Everyone has the capacity to control the way they think to be more aware of their environment, to get in better shape, to walk with a competent demeanor, or to learn something new about yourself. Believe that you have the tenacity, the will and the drive to not only survive, but thrive in anything that life has in mind for you.