Slice Of Life
Since Facebook has started I believe it has evolved. In the beginning I signed up for a Facebook page to keep watch on my then ninth- grader. She is now almost twenty, and barely on Facebook and I enjoy it for different reasons. I enjoy seeing photos of relatives who live far away, hear about their successes and good news. My old babysitter lives in Prague and her photos look as though she is living life as though she is in a foreign film. What I do not enjoy is the incessant posting of what I consider too much information.
A friend from work recently told me she was expecting her first baby. I immediately congratulated her on the good news. The second thing I did was advise her of what I think Facebook should and should not be used for in this new social media world. Now I do not consider myself the Emily Post of Facebook etiquette but here goes:
1. I think it is wonderful for people to post that they are expecting on Facebook. What I do not think is wonderful is for people to announce it by
posting their sonogram picture. I remember receiving the sonogram picture and sharing it with my family and close friends. If you have over 100 friends on Facebook when you post that sonogram picture, more than your close friends are going to see it.
2. Do not take weekly pictures with your shirt off and write how many weeks pregnant you are. When I was pregnant I did not want to look at my own belly; I certainly do not want to look at yours. This also applies to couples who take professional photos while expecting. You two standing together with a bow around your naked belly is too much while I am scrolling down my News Feed. Again if you would like to take those photos for a memory book to show your child, wonderful -just do not post for us all to see.
3. Once the baby is born I will be very happy when I see you post that it is either a girl or a boy. However I do not
need to see the picture when the child is only in this world for five seconds. Let the baby get cleaned up and take a picture a little later. I know you are excited but again maybe only send it to your family and close friends.
4. Once the baby is born I will enjoy seeing pictures and posts periodically. I do not need to know every little detail. Sorry. All babies are cute, we get it. Although, I do love the new trend of the month to month pictures with the babies in onesies that say how old they are!
5. When they get to school age I love hearing about successes, but to hear last week how every child did well on their report card, overwhelmed my News Feed. They are supposed to do well in school. That is their job. When they get into Harvard, let me know.
P.S. I had parent teacher conferences last week and only two parents picked up their cell phone. Maybe the others read my column on cell phone etiquette.