There’s an old expression that “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” Isn’t everything in the eye of the one that is looking? Our perspective colors what we see like a lens of perception. I am amazed at my happiness to see the post office reopen and excited to know that our supermarket will be back. When did I ever believe that such ordinary events like a supermarket selling food would be a source of happiness? What we experience, what we are taught, what we believe all goes into what we see.
I was not here during the actual storm. We left on Monday morning. Many of my neighbors who did stay have a different view of the ocean now than I do. I never felt that rushing wall of water or fear as to what could personally happen, so I can walk on the beach and pay attention to the birds and the beauty. Some of the people have told me that they have bad dreams and have feelings of foreboding when they look at the ocean. I am uncertain of the future just like everyone else, but because I didn’t actually live through the same experience, I am looking differently at the walls and the ocean.
I am usually an optimistic person so I will see the glass half full ordinarily. During the past few months, I have felt we have been put through the wringer by our insurance adjustors, contractors, and various agencies that we have had to deal with. Unexpected events have occurred on top of it all.. like flat tires, dead car batteries, broken items, etc. My anger level has risen pretty high and I have been struggling to have patience to allow things to be fixed at their pace, not mine. I found myself getting angry at people who had no understanding of what actually happened here. I still have so much more to go. All of these events have not changed me, but have made it more difficult. I have had to meditate and relax and learn what I have gained from going through this experience.
We have to be kind when others we are close to have a different take on what has happened, and how we should solve our daily or long range planning. We have all learned something going through hurricane Sandy, we have all experienced life differently, and we are different from each other. Within your small group of those you care about, give everyone a wide berth to express themselves and have different ideas. Then we can figure out the rest.