2012-01-20 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

Commentary by Marilyn Gelfand

Now that we are well into January, have you had any thoughts of change for the New Year? Did you make any resolutions? Entering a new year is a symbolic way of making appropriate changes that you may have procrastinated about. If you haven’t had a chance to think about what you want to sweep clean and begin fresh in a new year, why not do it now? It really doesn’t matter when necessary change occurs. It is often good to just start.

For myself, I decided that it was time to get rid of all things that were part of my life just because they were there, but really were just cluttering my space and time. There were people in my life who were present because of a long history, but no longer was the friendship of any real value. When friendships become obsolete or when people go in different directions, it is time to let go in peace. There may be sadness that things didn’t continue the way you would have hoped, but the reality impacts on your own time and space. After an initial transition, you may find yourself so happy to have so much more free time for yourself or to meet new people. Emotional change is never easy, but it is worth risking it for the unknown and uncomfortable transition.

I have lived in the same house for about 40 years. Over those years, I accumulated more stuff than I even believed possible. The kids grew up, the elders died and I took their things, and things of my own and kept many treasures. Now I felt ready to let some of these treasures go, and to discard all those rainy day old devices I thought I might need someday. Wow, what a lot of work to move out things, especially where there is an emotional attachment. I even found a library that took my dad’s old books and would pass them on to a university for future study. How happy my father would be to know this. The new space created may be so delightful that you may want to continue till you reach a point of satisfaction.

Have you looked at and felt your body recently from the inside and outside? Are there pounds you have put on that now would be healthy to take off? Are you eating good and healthy food, and moving around? Have you made a commitment to love yourself? I decided to pay more attention to my own needs this year.

So, these are just a few ideas that may spark an idea of what change may be necessary in your life to bring you to a place of greater happiness. It is true that we don’t control very much in our own lives, but we do control enough to allow us to have some peace or something better than it was. Simple things can make a difference and bring pleasure.

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