2010-03-19 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

Commentary by Marilyn Gelfand

When you make decisions, do you make them out of obligation or because you want to? Often we still live by our early programming in life and we act accordingly. We may be treating our adult children as youngsters if we haven’t recognized that they are all grown up now. When life changes, our duties and obligations do, too.

Take it one day at a time. We are told to have patience, let things unfold, and to go slowly. It is not easy to do, especially when insecurities are triggered. We want to eliminate impulsiveness and to be careful when making decisions. We want to weigh it all, and then make a logical and good decision. But things keep changing. We may have to remake a decision every day. The point is that things do change and circumstances present themselves sometimes when we least expect it.

The key is to be okay with change. It is okay to change your mind and to allow the flow of life to direct you in ways you were not thinking of. The question is if we are guided by our instincts or just playing it safe and disregarding what might be a true feeling of creativity.

Even if there is a fear of what could happen in the unknown, it is sometimes good to try something in a new fashion.

Change is predictable. We may stay the same, but the world around us does change.

If we suspend logic when we are expecting our intuition to give us information, it is easier to be flexible when change happens. Something may be happening in the background, and we are not aware of it through logic. It is good to be open to new ways and new people if our instincts are pushing us in that direction.

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