2008-11-28 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

Commentary by Marilyn Gelfand

If someone does something to you and it makes you angry, a good idea is to check with yourself as to why the person did what he did. In your own opinion, was the person trying to hurt you or help you? Does this person just have a different approach to life than you do? Was the individual being manipulative by having an ulterior motive?

Actions that we take are based on our own reasons of why we do them.

The same action could be done for different reasons. I may be nice to you because I want something from you or because I really care about you.

If someone's motives are good, let that be the guiding factor. Even if the actions are not what you would have hoped for, relax and don't feel so bad. The intentions were for the good and that is really what counts. It is better to have good intentions with a less than desirous end result than to have a good action with a suspicious motive. It is always important to not let little things be upsetting to you. Relax into life, and remember what is really important. Hope Thanksgiving was fun.

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