2008-09-26 / Letters

Please Recognize

Dear Editor,

Does anyone realize what September 7 was? I asked so many people and was sad that they didn't have a clue.

I don't know what everyone else did, but I lit a candle and said a prayer to my grandma.

September 7 was Grandparents Day, which is always overlooked, even though it's marked on the calendars. Mother's Day is recognized and Father's Day is recognized- what about our grandparents who created our mothers and fathers?

Grandparents are special; all the

ones I know go beyond the call of duty, with unconditional

"love, understanding, and patience. I heard something disturbing, a friend told me grandparents have no rights in family court and dealing with their grandchildren.

I'm here to say grandparents deserve many rights. I personally know and have seen many out of control teens, babies, special needs kids, and even well behaved kids being raised by their grandparents, while their moms run the streets, partying and getting high without a care in the world.

Grandparents - some disabled themselves struggling and traveling with little toddlers, being stressed out, going up to schools, doctor appointments, hospitals, precincts, courtrooms, jails - things the parents should be doing. Grandparents did their job already by raising you, now you're putting your kids on them. You mean to tell me they are supposed to raise two generations and in some cases three?

These are supposed to be the times when grandparents are enjoying retirement, enjoying their grandchildren and visits on holidays. Not [the time when they care for grandchildren] until they're grown with children of their own.

It is especially hard when it is one single grandparent, most likely it's the grandmas. Some are on fixed incomes and have to struggle and go through a bunch of red tape just to get money for their grandchildren. I know this strong, but sweet grandma that raised ten kids.

That's another thing key. See they can't keep their babies, but still keep adding more and more on their mama's plates. As soon as she feels a little at ease (at least they're in school) you give her another one of your children.

I don't know about you but I wouldn't want my parents to spend the rest of their lives taking care of my children.

What about the ones who do have custody of their children but takes advantage of grandma? Example: "Ma, I'll be right back, I'm going to the store." That's it, you won't see her till the end of the night with a lame excuse and high as a kite. That's mostly how the women do it. The guys are different.

Being their child lives with the baby mother, they take advantage of their moms missing her grandchild and can't wait to see him/her.

So he tells his baby's mother he's coming to get the child for the weekend (but we all know who really will be keeping him for the weekend).

While hes running in and out, giving his child a little kiss here, a little hug there, a little cuchie coo here. You're changing diapers, giving baths, feeding and waking up during the night.

I lost my grandma 7/ 1/ She helped raise me, my mom wasn't bad, but she was always working. So I was always around my grandma more and she taught me things my mom didn't have time for and showed me unconditional love no matter what I've done.

If no one else recognizes, I do. "Happy Grandparents Day" to all grandparents. We do need, love, and appreciate you.

CYNTHIA SMALLS WILLIAMS

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