2006-11-17 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

Commentary by Marilyn Gelfand

I have written numerous times here about the importance of keeping our own energy cleansed and protected. We are then not subject to the negativity of others; the hooks that others may be attempting to cast into other people like fishing lines, the manipulation that can be intimidation or victimhood, as well as energy that may make us doubt ourselves. Once we have self-doubt, then we become easily controlled.

Even though it feels good to have our own energy radiating with love, we still have to have a boundary around ourselves.

If we are enclosed behind a wall, for example, it doesn't really matter if anyone is throwing darts our way.

Since we cannot control the behavior of another, we can control our own response to it.

If we stay behind the wall, we won't feel what the other is dishing out, and our emotions will be less volatile. We won't have to worry about controlling our own feelings while trying to figure out a response on how to deal with the darts.

If we have a sense of detachment, we can also accept reality as it is instead of creating our own suffering by hoping people will change or be the way I want.

I can step back and see what I have learned here. The key is to always have a beautiful open loving heart, but it must be safely protected from outside forces.

We consciously choose to connect to the highest planes of wisdom and love. To God, or whatever power you perceive, and then keep our love always on inside our hearts, especially since it feels so good. This has nothing to do with what others are doing, want from me or expect.

I can share a good relationship with another by allowing that person to be himself and giving myself the space to enjoy what life as I see it.

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