2006-06-16 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

by Marilyn Gelfand

I have often been asked what the difference is between a fence and a boundary.

When the discussion turns to an individual needing to put a boundary of protection around oneself, it seems like we are creating a separation from another.

How can one have a relationship with another when a fence is there between? The expression "Good fences make good neighbors" means the relationship is a separation to those who question the concept of a boundary.

A boundary that protects our good cleansed energy allows us to feel good all the time. We do not have to worry about other's energy influencing our sense of well-being. We are neither caught up in someone else's energy or path, nor do we allow another to enter our bubble of safety. The relationship is formed around the protected bubbles.

In scrambled eggs, both the whites and yolks are all mixed up to form a yellow mass. In sunnyside up eggs, the two yolks are intact and the whites surround the yolks on all sides. Sunnyside up eggs represent the way a relationship is desired from a spiritual perspective. The two yolks are whole and separate, yet a relationship can form like the whites of eggs that surround both energies or people with the same substance. In an ideal relationship, the partners may be different from each other but try to understand the other. Each partner is encouraged to be the way that the individual wants for himself. The partners encourage each other to be the way each chooses for himself.

Then together they come together to enjoy each other. The boundary allows us to have the happiness to be myself, while enjoying what we share in a relationship. This is different from the Hollywood notion that we merge our energies and form one unit in a relationship.

Spiritually, we are not two halves that form one, but rather two that come together.

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