The Inner Voice by Marilyn Gelfand
The word love means many different things to different people.
Love is a feeling inside me that I enjoy. For me, my heart feels open and I can carry out my day with this good feeling in me. I know that when I become upset with someone and I shut off my feeling of love, it hurts.
I am not myself and a pain fills my chest. Over the years, I have tried to feel love flowing in me regardless of others.
I am loving inside rather than worrying about who loves me or who doesn’t. To keep my love turned on does not require an object. I don’t need to love ‘you” in order to keep the energy flowing. I am loving always.
I remind myself not to turn my love off because of something unexpected that may have happened.
In a relationship, love means something else to me. In order for me to love “you” there has to be a mutual respect for the differences in us. We have to be two separate people and create beauty around who we are. We create an energy between us through our mutual respect.
In choosing friends, I always look for those who want an open equal relationship. If someone wants to be in charge or always wants me to make all the decisions then I look elsewhere.
I don’t want to be controlled or desire to carry along another person. If the person proves to be trustworthy too, then you may decide that this person is worthy of your special love.
If not you may realize that this person is only an acquaintance, and should be dealt with only a small expenditure of your energy.
If love is returned, then a bond can be made between two people. This bond is based on free will that can be recreated everyday. It is the choice that makes it really a good relationship.