The Inner Voice by Marilyn Gelfand
I have been talking to many different people about the bombings in London, and people often try to control their own lives and deaths by being smart. We think we can change our lives and prevent so much of what is uncontrollable from happening to ourselves and those we love.
There was one story of a man who left NY after 9/11 because he was too
scared to be here any longer, only to be one of the missing now in London. We can try to prevent bad things from happening, but the bottom line is really all of life is not in our control. We have to accept that life is always full of surprises that are not predictable, and then live with the most enjoyment possible to ourselves.
One of my friends left our area to start a better life in Arizona only
to be killed in a fatal car crash on her way to work. Two people have been killed in car crashes where I work in Queens. We don’t reallystop and think about car accidents, but now since my friend died, I notice that everyday in our metropolitan area a few people die in car accidents. We don’t hear much about it in the news media, but
nevertheless this occurs almost everyday to someone. So what can we do?
We need to obviously live as safely as we can while maintaining our quality of life, and then realize that we are not “God.” We do not control life and death. We focus on illness and go for the cure. We get checkups to keep ourselves safe. But, in the end, we will all leave the Earth, the only question is when.
As spiritual individuals, sometimes we are given information through
our gut reactions. We may not intellectually understand why we don’t
want to go some place or need to hurry when there seems no reason, but often this is being in tune with the larger picture of the world. We follow our instincts and live in a manner that brings us happiness. Then, there is no reason to feel that I should have done this or that. If each moment can be our last, we live more closely to what we really choose. Being authentic to ourselves knowing that life is very precious often allows us to grow old in a calm and peaceful way.