2003-05-23 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

by Marilyn Gelfand
The Inner Voice by Marilyn Gelfand

The only thing we can control is our own energy. We cannot control anything else, really. Other people, or life’s circumstances are often the opposite of what we wish they were. But we can try to separate our ability to cleanse and protect our energy from the response that may be required in any set of circumstances. I can recognize what I feel, realize why I have been triggered into some discomfort or out of balance state, and then decide on what I should do about it. Humor and not taking ourselves too seriously does wonders to help us return to balance.

Often our emotions throw off our energy to such an extent that we feel we cannot function normally. Emotions are powerful reactions to something that has triggered us in the outside environment. If we are alone, our own personal thoughts may take us into all the what-ifs, and we can create unbelievable possibilities.

The key to dealing with our emotions from the spiritual perspective is to understand that we can be aware that we feel a certain way and then discharge that emotion. The initial feeling is enough to let us know what is going on inside, and then there is no longer a need to continue in that energy. So there is a choice in how we feel. We can recognize that the spirit controls our mind and our thoughts. We can choose peace instead.

We have to know that the spirit can always trust in the path even if the point of some of the experiences doesn’t make sense in the present moment. Hindsight often clears up some of the confusion in our daily lives. If we can remove some of the labels we attach to people, situations or emotions, often that stops our minds from going on and on. If you say to yourself, I feel a feeling inside my stomach, for example, rather than saying I’m afraid, the emotion loses some of its power. We don’t have to judge ourselves.

If your mind requires that you always have to prove your self-worth to yourself or others, you will find yourself constantly comparing your "success" or "failure" with those around you or your own illusion of where you should be at a given moment. You can never rest or rejoice in the happiness of others. If instead you identify yourself with the whole of energy, in a cooperative vein, kind of like ants who work together for the good of all of them, you can do your best, eliminate the useless "shoulds" that are done just for display, and have more fun. The freedom to do what you really want may work well for you even if it is not particularly valued by those around you. It is so important to allow our spirit in when we create thoughts of self-worth, success or failure. We want to be sure that we are on our own paths rather than trapped into doing what we are told is of importance by others. In a society that values the physical body and its appearance to such a great extent, it almost seems comical to say that the body is just the vehicle for the spirit, for example.


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