The Inner Voice
By Marilyn Gelfand
As we begin 2003, there are so many unknowns about both our own personal and public futures. Our lives are impacted by the world "out there" whether it involves unemployment or a job or if we leave our homes and feel "safe," for example. If we get caught up in the unknown, we may become afraid, and then we have less and less patience to allow things to unfold at their appropriate timing.
Patience is often the hardest of our lessons. When we want something to happen badly or if we really care about someone or something, it often seems as though we’ll never, depending on the situation, know, have it or understand. Some things operate on a timetable that’s unique to itself unrelated to another. We have to wait till it’s ready or accept that it took an entirely different turn. Sometimes things even happen better than if we had gotten what we wanted in the first place.
How to wait is often the difficulty. If you want to see what someone truly is like, it’s best to say as little as possible and observe. Does that person’s words and actions correspond even when you stopped your reaction to them? Does this person, for example, really care about you, even when you stop asking for a particular thing? Often people will appease others just to keep the status quo, and when quiet returns, just go back to the original behavior. The more patience one has, the more you can actually observe what someone is like. If you feel you can’t wait, you may never see what will unfold under its own or the Universe’/God’s power.
There’s a difference between having patience and letting something go that should be done. Intuitively you can feel the difference. If you end up for forcing the action ahead of its time or you’re just procrastinating because of your own personal reason, it feels different. Having patience often means I’ve done everything I could, now it’s out of my control, and I have no choice but to wait. Often thinking that it’s in God’s hand now, is a helpful way to release the timing.
So for the coming year, let’s keep steady as much as possible, keep our hearts loving, our outside thicker-skinned so we don’t become impulsive and listen to our inner voices. We will know when to act, when to have patience and when to relax into life.