The Inner Voice
By Marilyn Gelfand
I have written a number of columns on trust. I almost never write about trusting another person, but rather about trusting yourself and God (Universe). As both of these versions of trust deepen, future outcomes become less fearful or strong, but focus in on my own right action today. If I am doing what I know to be correct for me, then I have to let go. One never knows how others will react to our actions, nor do we have access to the big divine plan of our lives (and those we are involved with). With trust, it will be okay whichever way it goes because I will trust my instincts to guide me to safety. God or the Universe does not bend to my script of life, but rather I choose to align with the big picture of which I am a piece of a puzzle. All the puzzle pieces are important and need to fit in to create a picture. So many of us try to bargain with God to create our own big picture puzzle.
When one lives with these trusts, then a personal strength develops which in turn leads to self-love. With self-love comes the ability to be oneself. Other people’s opinions matter far less, and there is always love in one’s heart no matter what action is taken. I know it is not selfish to be concerned about my life and myself, while I try to live with the good of all concerned.
I can give up trying to control people, situations, outcomes, and instead focus on empowerment. It is much better to be independent and to create independent children. Through independence I use my wisdom to decide what my actions will be. It is easier to be spiritually cleansed when one is not so caught up in ones own script of how things should be, but instead try to focus on what is in the present moment. Then my instincts will be clear to me.