2002-04-27 / Columnists

From the G-Man by Gary G. Toms Why’d You Have To Go There?

From the G-Man by Gary G. Toms Why’d You Have To Go There?

From the G-Man by Gary G. Toms
Why’d You Have To Go There?

I’m going to start this week’s column by answering a question that many people have asked me in person, over the phone, and via Email. Frank Pedagno, a faithful reader of my column, probably spoke for a majority of the people with inquiring minds.

"I grew up in Rockaway and after following my career to Florida, find myself back in New York. I enjoy following the goings on in my hometown, and I am a subscriber. I missed the column "From the G-man" last week. What happened? I may not always agree with Mr. Toms, but I defend his right to put forth his views, and I like his no-nonsense style. His column is a credit to the paper. Thank you."

No, thank YOU Frank for the kind words. I would also like to thank all of the others who reached out in various ways to get the dish on what happened. I truly appreciate your concern.

I don’t know if they will appreciate me saying this, but if freedom of expression prevails, what I’m about to say will be printed in its entirety.

The reason why last week’s column, "The Sins of ‘The Father’, did not appear was because there was a difference of opinion between me and the management of The Wave regarding content. They stated that the column might unnecessarily offend a particular community or lose advertisers. Yes, the column was that powerful! I took the position that I should not be the victim of censorship, and, as a method of protest, I did not submit a column. I was asked to write another column, but I refused. Sometimes you have to take a stand in life, especially if you believe in something strongly. So, that’s the reason why my column did not appear in the paper last week. I’ll put this issue to bed by stating that since so many of you have asked to read the article, you can Email me at Scorpio10251@aol.com, and I will send it to you. Hopefully, those requesting the piece will have an open mind, and be willing to accept the piece as simply an interpretation of a very serious problem that the country is facing. Please keep that in mind.

A week ago, I came to the defense of a woman who was walking along the street in Rockaway Park. She was making her way toward the bus stop, when this man jumped in front of her and prevented her from passing. He leered at her for several seconds, and asked her for her phone number. I glanced back and asked if she was okay.

"There’s no problem here man, so just mind your damn business," said the sleazy skuzzball.

I then informed the jackass that I could hurt him without even putting a hand on him. He laughed, and I laughed back.

"Get away from me!" the woman shouted at him.

He grabbed her arm, and he refused to let her pass.

"Baby, you’re so fine! Just let me talk to you for a minute," said the fool.

I kept thinking about the fact that this could be my sister, my girlfriend or a dear friend of mine that he was harassing. It may not have been smart, but I decided to up the ante.

"Why don’t you come and grab me like that? You’re a real tough guy, huh?"

"Man, I’ll kick you’re (expletive) all up and down Rockaway. Do you have any idea who you are (expletive) with?" he yelled.

I smiled at him and asked, "Why’d you have to go there?" I started to walk over to him, and he let the woman go. She thanked me for helping her, and walked down the block until she reached the Green Bus Line stop near Beach 110 Street.

As we stood there, he looked as though he was ready to swing for my face. I did not move. He tried to push me. I did not move.

"You’re a sucka, man!" he screamed.

I responded by saying, "I may be a sucka, but this sucka has more knowledge and power than you can imagine. You have no clue who I am or what I’m about. I think you’d better be really careful starting fights with people you know nothing about."

I don’t know what it was, but I saw something happen in his eyes. Suddenly, he looked very concerned. Did he think I was a cop? Did he think I was a fifth degree black belt in Karate? Did he think I had a gun or some concealed weapon? I’ll never know because he just spit at my feet and walked away.

I told myself that I was going to write about the incident in my column because recently I have seen too many kids "start throwing" for the stupidest reasons. I wanted to let them know that a real man, or young lady, does not have to try and take someone’s head off to prove a point or show how "bad" they are. If you stop, think and rationalize, it will keep you from making some serious mistakes that could have an effect on your future. Strive to be a better person in these situations. It may not always work, but as long as you can talk yourself out of a volatile situation, you will always come out ahead.

See you next week!

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