2001-11-10 / Columnists

The Inner Voice

By Marilyn Gelfand

By Marilyn Gelfand

When things don’t go the way we expect them to, we often judge what happens as "bad." Although we realize that we don’t control everything, somehow, we expect that life will go the way we feel it should. In hindsight, we can often feel lucky when something changed, and it was actually favorable. But while we are living everyday, we can be thrown by the unexpected occurring.

There are big events that, of course, can cause trauma when they occur. But even smaller situations like vacations, workdays, guests in our home, etc. can present a turn of events that were completely unforeseen. I have started living my life as openly and as flexibly as possible. What I have come to realize is that, barring those traumas, no one can tell if what is happening in any present moment is going to be good or bad as it plays itself out in the future. As life is lived, one can look around and actually see what is presented, rather than what is thought or hoped. Then go on from there. Recently, I went visiting someone in a city where I could not get a room because the one weekend I decided to travel was football homecoming weekend. It seemed so dumb. But, the weather was excellent, and I stayed in a neighboring town that was very interesting historically and naturally. I had a great time, and it was even better than if I had my original plan. I just followed my instincts and I left logic out of the picture here.

Since we don’t know all the aspects of every situation, but God and the Universe does, often letting our instincts guide us will tap into this information. Recently, I wanted to purchase a new product for my home. Nothing went right, and I even had to resort to taking out a small claims court summons to get my money returned. It was a disgusting experience dealing with such an unprofessional company. I started to question my instincts. Why did I pick them? In the meantime, I looked on the Internet, and I found a company that manufactured this product in the New York City area, and it was so much more beautiful. After going through the whole hassle, I decided that it was worth buying what I really wanted in the first place. The order was placed, and everything went smoothly. I do realize that I never would have initially ordered what came to me later since I thought the other was good enough. In hindsight, I’d say it was worth it to get what I wanted in the long run, but it was terrible living through it.

So with more and more trust in ourselves and in the Universe, we can let go of judgment, and just keep on living.


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