THE INNER VOICE
THE INNER VOICE
BY MARILYN GELFAND
I recently got a lovely note from a reader, and I realized that it was time to give a little bit of background again. I have been writing this column since 1984, and it’s probably the first spiritual column in a mainstream newspaper. Leon Locke at that time thought readers would be interested, and I have been writing it ever since. Over the years, I’ve taught classes in adult education (Psychic Development and Inner Awareness) in Beach Channel H.S., and done workshops, groups, etc. These days I do counselings and bring together a small group of people who meditate and heal together. If anyone is interested, please leave your name and phone number for me with the Wave newspaper.
So much of what we determine as "happiness" depends on how we view what the circumstances in our lives are like. For some, adversity may present a challenge or an obstacle course rather than the end of the world. We can focus on what we have that gives us happiness or what we can do for ourselves to make us feel good. Some unhappiness is caused because we expect others to do for us. Sometimes we mistake gifts as a sign of caring, when they’re given for a price. We often create expectations of how life should be, how others must act and what we must be entitled to. When one is on the spiritual path, it is so important to remember to stay focused in the present and trust our instincts to lead us in the right direction today. Each day will unfold, and it is so important to be flexible. There are rewards that are unexpected, but one must be open to see them. Our happiness is often determined by our ability to know how to live. If we expect ups and downs as natural in life, if we try to see reality as it is rather than what we wish it to be, we will be more open and equipped to accept what each moment has to offer.
Where we focus our attention is a choice. We can focus on what makes us happy or what is amiss in our lives. We can think of how we can control ourselves, rather than be concerned with how others are uncontrollable. We all have different values. If we’re able to appreciate that each of us has good answers for ourselves, we can see what someone else views as happiness.