2000-09-16 / Sports

Fitness Forum… Ask The Personal Trainer

Dear Shaun,
By Shaun Ruskin

Fitness Forum…
Ask The Personal Trainer
Dear Shaun,

I need motivation. I’m ready to start working out in the worst way, but I have no drive. I really need to do this, so can you please find a way to motivate me, or at least give me some motivational words to get me going?




I have good news and bad news. Which would you like to hear first? Ever notice when that question is asked to someone, they always want to hear the bad news first. Why is that? Either way you look at it, the bad news always cancels out the good. Is the good ever so great that it makes the bad go away? Never, so I’m going to break the rules and give you the good news first.

The good news is that I can finally answer your question with a yes or no, as opposed to working my way around it as I so often tend to do. Unfortunately Terry, the bad news is that I can’t motivate you, but you can motivate yourself, with my help. So proceed on.

One of my favorite "life exercises" (as I like to call them), is to analyze your thoughts and eventually what you actually say, which obviously hails from your thoughts. In your question, you expressed that you need motivation. That’s a mistake, you don’t need motivation, believe me you can live without it. You have to change your thinking process to wanting that motivation. Here’s an example for you.

People say they need to stop smoking all the time, but never do. They only take action and attempt to stop smoking when that word "want" comes out of their mouth. "I want to stop smoking." See the difference? The same goes for fitness. You have to want to feel better about yourself, you have to want to look better, and you have to want to make this a part of your lifestyle, not a burden on it.

Needing to begin fitness is a chore that you don’t want, but wanting to begin fitness is desired and required by you, so you’re sure to succeed. As human beings, we usually get what we need, which is fine. Personally I feel it’s a lot more satisfying to strive for something I want, not need.

So that’s your first step, changing that need into a want, but only if you want to. All you really " need " in this world is toilet paper and water, nothing else. I suppose you really don’t even need toilet paper, but better off with than without, right.

Okay Terry, thanks for the question, I really enjoyed answering and I hope you’ve enjoyed reading. Remember, once you’ve decided that you want motivation, then you’re already motivated to wanting that motivation. Confusing, but true. Don’t analyze it, envision it, then go for it, and I’ll see you at the gym.


Shaun’s Thinking Out Loud:

Ever notice in Rockaway there are roughly 10 bars in a radius of only a few miles, that not only survive, but financially are very well off. Yet, never once has a health food store which is geared to better ones physical, mental and emotional well being, even come close to lasting long enough for anyone to even remember their name. Hmm…

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