2000-01-22 / Columnists

From The G-Man...by Gary Toms

From The G-Man

A Rose To All The Ladies

By Gary Toms

Hey people! When I look back to when I was just a little G-man, I realize that women have played a significant role in my life. No I’m not talking about girlfriends I may have had during the course of my life. Although, I can think of one or two that deserve, shall we say, an "honorable mention". I’m referring to women who took a young boy and gave him all the essentials necessary to evolve into an extremely unique man.

It should not come as a surprise to know that the first woman to impact my life was my mother. I have told many of you, through a number of articles, how she stood alone and raised four children. I see how many single mothers struggle today with just one or two kids, and I truly have come to understand just how difficult it was for her. She’s got one hell of a fighting spirit. That’s probably where I get it from. A simple thank you will never be enough to convey the level of gratitude, and love, that I feel for her. God bless you mom.

In my high school years, at Far Rockaway High School, I had the great fortune of being introduced to certain works of literature that catapulted me into new areas of thinking. Books like "Nightshift", by Elie Wiesel, showed me how vicious man can be; as illustrated in the Holocaust. Authors like Richard Wright, and the great James Baldwin, made me understand what it is to be African-American in this society from works such as "Native Son" and "The Fire Next Time". I want it to be known that I truly appreciated having two phenomenal women, my English teachers, in my life. It is because of them that I am enjoying a level of success as a writer. Mrs. Barbara Simon and Mrs. Susan Bernstein, I love you, and I thank you.

My college years blessed me with professors like June Bob, Ruth Siegel, Diana Chin, Joan Nestle and Anne Okongwu. They were brilliant women who sculpted my mind, and they made me want to reach for the highest star. I learned that anything is possible, if you dare to dream. They all referred to themselves as supreme bitches when it came to education, and they were proud of it. I take great pride in saying that I’ve never known a finer group of "bitches" in my life! Ladies, I acknowledge your greatness, and I thank you as well.

In the years that followed, women continued to educate me, but the lessons extended far beyond the classroom. Hey, get your minds out of the gutter! Through various relationships, I was now learning how to understand the "essence" of a woman. The things that make her who and what she is. What makes her laugh, smile and cry? What is pleasing to her in the physical sense? What makes her angry? Could I learn this from a man? Probably, but no one understands a woman better….than a woman. By the way guys, if you’re the type that thinks you have them all figured out, I’ve got a nice, shiny "Jacky" award for you! Don’t ever underestimate them or take them for granted.

I cannot express how much I appreciate having these women in my life. I have graduated to the point where I can do things like cook, sew, dress for success, choose a good wine, show compassion, recognize great literature, kiss with passion instead of lust, be polite and allow myself to evolve in the spiritual sense. I have so much more to learn, and I know that women will continue to play a very important part in my growth. Having men to help guide me is, and has always been, important, but having the guidance of a woman is essential. The statement is true indeed. "Behind every great man, there’s a great woman." Personally, the G-man prefers beside instead of behind. All of the real men out there know exactly what I’m talking about.

A rose to all the ladies, and I’ll see you next week! Feel free to contact me at GeeMan1025@aol.com.


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